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Harry Bloomfield

Harry Bloomfield

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A few weeks ago, via FB, I found a guy who I had begun working with, immediately after leaving school. After leaving the company, I heard no more from him, other than he was 'shacked up', with a Canadian girl. Fast-forward many decades, and I regain contact via FB, to find to my surprise, he never married, lives completely alone, and just never really got on with having a woman around the place.

I just could not envisage, spending a life, living alone, no one at home to share things with, and for company.
 
Each to their own. I live alone and although never say never I doubt that'll change for me. I'm now in my 50s and increasingly I'm set in my own ways. Not sure I could do the compromising that living with someone 24/7 demands.

Having said that, when I get near retirement age I can well envisage seeking friendship with some lucky woman to then do stuff with e.g. day trips, holidays etc. Someone who is independent, has their own property and savings and isn't looking to shack up on a 24/7 basis.

I know people who are married or in long term relationships and they're miserable with the setup. As the somewhat clichéd but true saying goes, you can be as lonely living with someone as you can living on your own.
 
diy_fun_uk said:
Someone who is independent, has their own property and savings and isn't looking to shack up on a 24/7 basis.
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I was alone for many years, working, travelling all over the place, being tied down then, just simply would not have suited me or them.

Avril, is away at the moment, for the weekend visiting relis, and due back today. As you may remember, this is my third go at this, following my long term partners death. The first two did make me feel quite lonely in a relationship, and I've not heard from either one since. The first did seem to want to make a real go of it, but the initial enthusiasm quickly abated. The second seemed to just be looking to get herself set up for the rest of her life, but you never really know what they have in mind.

I manage perfectly fine alone, but life is so much easier, less worrying, with two of you in the house to take care of things. I have a dog, and it really concerns me what might happen to her and the property, should anything happen to me, or should I need to spend any time in hospital.
 
noseall said:
Conversely, my missus has helped me no end, build my business. Fools and their cash are easily parted.
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I'm with the same woman i married over 30 years ago.

Has helped us both make more money than we've spent. And children (and from them, grandchildren). Worth more than money.

But if money is the target, then maybe priorities change.
 
But if, God forbid, something happened and you split up, she would want a good proportion of the wealth she has helped to propagate, wouldn't she?

I know in that position Mrs S would.
 
Of course, hence my use of the words "proportion" and "helped".
 
carmanmemoranda said:
I'm with the same woman i married over 30 years ago.

Has helped us both make more money than we've spent. And children (and from them, grandchildren). Worth more than money.

But if money is the target, then maybe priorities change.
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Yeah my one regret as I get older is not having kids, however I suppose you need to be careful and not look at things like that through rose tinted glasses.
 
diy_fun_uk said:
Yeah my one regret as I get older is not having kids, however I suppose you need to be careful and not look at things like that through rose tinted glasses.
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I/we got landed with my first partner's g/kids, so I gained that experience without looking for it.
 
World's shortest fairy tale.
Once upon a time a bloke asked a girl "Will you marry me?"
The girl said "NO!"
And the bloke lived happily ever after and rode motorbikes and went fishing and played golf a lot and drank beer and scotch and had money in the bank and left the toilet seat up and farted whenever he wanted.
THE END.
 
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