Your Will and Arrangements

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Do you have a Will and arrangements (£) for your funeral?

I'm going through this for a relative who left nothing, no wishes, no money, no policy, etc.
Massive PITA and isn't a great way of leaving us all with a good impression!

Don't leave it to others to clean up your ****. Die properly.
 
If its a distant relative with no prior contact, I would let the council manage it.
 
BlueLoo said:
Do you have a Will and arrangements (£) for your funeral?

I'm going through this for a relative who left nothing, no wishes, no money, no policy, etc.
Massive PITA and isn't a great way of leaving us all with a good impression!

Don't leave it to others to clean up your ****. Die properly.
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I’m very sorry bro, I didn’t mean to die, I’m sorry it’s inconvenient for you
 
Something I have found out recently, helping with a relative, is that if you decide you want a "direct" cremation (aka an "unattended" cremation), your body can be sent hundreds of miles away to be cremated. With most of these schemes, you will not be cremated at your local crematorium. Even if it is arranged with a local funeral director, they are likely to be part of a national group, such as the Coop, who have their own crematoria. If you want to be cremated locally using a direct cremation, the only way is to use an independent funeral director and make it clear, in your Letter of Wishes, which crematorium you want to use.
 
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I suspect one of these days I will end up buried at sea, shortly after drowning and a while after declaring "don't worry it's only a small hole".

A Will is easy to DIY. People get too focused on making it a lasting will covering all possibilities. But if you keep it simple and update it regularly it can be very easy.
 
I have told my family that I want my body to be handed over to "medical science". I am hoping that I will become a cadaver for medical students rather than a potential Robocop. I guess I need to do some research...
 
BlueLoo said:
Do you have a Will and arrangements (£) for your funeral?

I'm going through this for a relative who left nothing, no wishes, no money, no policy, etc.
Massive PITA and isn't a great way of leaving us all with a good impression!

Don't leave it to others to clean up your ****. Die properly.
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Do you mean die rich?
 
My brother died unexpectedly nearly 3 years ago leaving me and my wife a home with 20 years of clutter in it.

One of the first things I found was a codicil to his will and a letter from the solicitors written a few years before so I then knew there was a will.

However he had gone almost totally paperless and I had no access to his phone or laptop or computer. Took me ages to sort things out but only with an extremely lucky guess at his phone passcode.

So leave a will AND make sure somebody knows your log in details and any wishes you have for your funeral / burial / ashes. It’s only fair on those you leave behind

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Re Medical research - Do make sure you read the small print. Some of the Donors to medical science ended up in art exhibitions.

I'd add a link to articles, but they include pictures of semi dissected human cadavers
 
My wife and I did ours through a solicitor, who specialises in Wills/Probate stuff, over six months ago. (Before I discovered I had inoperable cancer just before Christmas), as there are certain people, we don't want making a claim on either of our assets.
Feel so glad we did it when we did so those people can't say either of us was pressured by the other person.
For instance, when we married, over six years ago, we knew my wife would inherit her stepdads' home and savings etc. I insisted that I did not want to inherit anything that her dad had spent his life building up for his family. So my name is not on the house records etc. The only thing I would accept, and she and the solicitor agreed it would be for the best, would that I would be able to live out the rest of my life in the family home if my wife passed away first.

I would urge anyone who doesn't have a Will to get one drawn up now. If you divorce, or seriously injured in an accident etc, it can be a nightmare for your executors to try and sort out, and cost a huge chunk of whatever ever money you may have.
 
People make a lot of assumptions about what will happen to their estate if they peg it without a will. Unfortunately some of these assumptions are often wrong and can lead to a lot of hassle, heated discussions, arguments, court cases etc for those left behind.
 
diy_fun_uk said:
People make a lot of assumptions about what will happen to their estate if they peg it without a will. Unfortunately some of these assumptions are often wrong and can lead to a lot of hassle, heated discussions, arguments, court cases etc for those left behind.
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100% accurate

The only winners then are the legal people
 
And anyone who is divorced with children and has remarried, make sure you get advice about how you pass assets on your death, because if it passes to wife no 2, she can change her will and cut your children out completely
 
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